I imagine it becomes infinitely easier to deal with whatever arises in one's life once they've arrived at that conclusion. Maybe I'm finally headed in the right direction.
It's likely a consequence of my own personality - outwardly, i'm nonchalantly positive toward just about everything - which only serves to belie the fact that inside, i'm a boiling pot, mind astir with eleventy million thoughts as to all the possible outcomes of whatever situation is at hand. I guess that would make it difficult for others to generate genuine empathy when it's me in turmoil.
Quite disturbing though, to realize how empty some 'call me if you need anything' invitations truly are. Luckily for my own sanity though, i'm beginning to see the facades for what they are. People ask if you're OK and then ask for a favor in the same breath.Transparent.
You never quite expect it though, because a lot of times, it's the people you've shown genuine concern for who turn around and offer those empty invitations, all the while hoping that they don't have to drum up faux concern pretending to care about whatever it is you're going through.
Worse even, are the '1-uppers' as I like to call them. The ones who can't POSSIBLY be actually paying attention to whatever it is you're stressed about, because immediately after you finish, they have a story of their own to show how much worse off they are than you. Helpful? Not in the least. Sure I know there's always someone doing worse than me, but that doesn't help me when i'm dealing with something that's serious to me.
All in all, i say this to say, appreciate the people who genuinely do show you they care and are legitimately there to help in whatever way possible, because THOSE people come few and far in between.
For the most part....... #NobodyCaresB
It's likely a consequence of my own personality - outwardly, i'm nonchalantly positive toward just about everything - which only serves to belie the fact that inside, i'm a boiling pot, mind astir with eleventy million thoughts as to all the possible outcomes of whatever situation is at hand. I guess that would make it difficult for others to generate genuine empathy when it's me in turmoil.
Quite disturbing though, to realize how empty some 'call me if you need anything' invitations truly are. Luckily for my own sanity though, i'm beginning to see the facades for what they are. People ask if you're OK and then ask for a favor in the same breath.
You never quite expect it though, because a lot of times, it's the people you've shown genuine concern for who turn around and offer those empty invitations, all the while hoping that they don't have to drum up faux concern pretending to care about whatever it is you're going through.
Worse even, are the '1-uppers' as I like to call them. The ones who can't POSSIBLY be actually paying attention to whatever it is you're stressed about, because immediately after you finish, they have a story of their own to show how much worse off they are than you. Helpful? Not in the least. Sure I know there's always someone doing worse than me, but that doesn't help me when i'm dealing with something that's serious to me.
All in all, i say this to say, appreciate the people who genuinely do show you they care and are legitimately there to help in whatever way possible, because THOSE people come few and far in between.
For the most part....... #NobodyCaresB
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